Catch the bouquet

I went to my boss's wedding....reception yesterday afternoon. They didn't have a ceremony. They went down to city hall on May 30th and got hitched. They waited a month to have a lunch reception out on Lake Zurich. It was an awesome time and of course it kind of got me thinking about weddings, as it would for most people. To be honest, I've never really imagined my own wedding. I didn't really think someone would be able to tolerate being with me that long. Growing up, I never fantasized about my dream wedding or engagement ring or even husband for that matter. I remember a stint in grade school that I said I would never get married. Things do change when you get older and now I think I should think about what kind of wedding I want to have some day. For a little while I've thought about what kind of ring I'd like to get (this isn't implying anything at all, honestly) . I have searched around before online to look at rings and what I thought I would like. I also like rings and necklaces, which lead me to looking at engagement rings. I fell in love with this design. I've always been one for more detail and not to be plain. I absolutely love a decorated band, not just a basic plain one. I've always been one to lean towards a vintage or antique look. This probably comes from my fondness of tradition when the male gives his girlfriend his grandmother's ring or her grandmothers ring. I always thought this tradition was really sweet and something that should stick around. Sadly, most traditions lie, and some rings really are awful. One thing I have debated about with a ring is colored stones. I think I would love to have pink or green stones in my ring, but I like a traditional looking ring. I would also have to see it in person in order to decide if I like it. As for the wedding itself, I dont want a big one because really, who all would I invite that wouldn't be in my bridal party? I don't want that much of a traditional reception. I'll dance with my husband and that will be the only required dance. I don't want it to be stressful and I think planing out other things would be difficult.

I guess I've put more thought into my own wedding in the last few years. I was supposed to be married if things went according to plan, which they did not, which was better. Even then I never thought about the actual ceremony. I would def require our own vows to be written and them to he hilarious and heartfelt. And of course the most delicious and extravagant cake ever made. Maybe by Duff or even Bobby Flay ha.

I've been thinking about the over all concept of a marriage and everyone says it is always so hard. I don't really quite grasp what they could mean by that but I am definatly not one to say love will fix everything, I don't live in a fantasy(even though lately it does feel like it's too good to be true). Some people would consider it to be a contractual ball and chain, or just a piece of paper. I see it as more. You're combining lives together more than you have before. You have found your TRUE partner in crime and someone you can go to with anything no matter what. Yes, you should have friends that do that for you but if you really look at it, your partner is already there in the middle of the night if something happens, they're already there if you need a hug. Being able to share everything in your life with another person is just glorious. Some people say they never want to get married and things are fine they way they are. Everyone can believe what they want to, but look at it from another angle. Say something life threatening happens or maybe your partner dies, you might not be allowed in your own home or to your own things because you weren't married.

I feel like I'm just babbling now. I guess what I'm saying is get married, weddings are fun, spend your life with someone special.

Would I be considered a romantic now?